Already stressing about the holidays—even though it’s barely September? If you’re a perfectionist or people-pleaser, you might be trying to get ahead to avoid overwhelm… but accidentally creating more of it. In this post, I share gentle, grounding questions to help you reflect, set boundaries, and plan from a calmer place (when you're actually ready to).

If you expect the most from yourself—and letting someone down feels like the absolute worst—you might be caught in patterns of perfectionism and people-pleasing that keep your relationships feeling stuck. In this blog post, I explore why you get stuck in these patterns, how they affect relationships, and how therapy can help you create more balanced, authentic connections.

When life feels fine—not amazing, not terrible—it’s easy to put off starting therapy. But if anxiety or perfectionism are familiar patterns, that sense of calm might actually be the best time to start. As a therapist in New York, I often work with clients who wait until things feel really hard to get support. In this post, I explore why starting therapy when you’re not in crisis can actually help you build more clarity, insight, and resilience—so you’re not just surviving the next wave of stress, but navigating it with more confidence and care.

If you’re an anxious perfectionist, the idea of scheduling a therapy consultation call might leave you overthinking what to say, ask, or prepare. As a therapist in New York, I’ve guided lots of clients through this first step. In this post, I’ll walk you through exactly what to expect—from how consult calls work to what questions you can ask (if you want)—so you can move forward with less stress and more clarity.

If you're feeling nervous about your first therapy session, especially as someone who tends to overthink or wants to come in totally prepared—you’re in the right place. This post breaks down what actually happens in a first session, with a focus on easing the pressure and helping you feel more comfortable from the start.

Starting therapy can feel overwhelming—especially when perfectionism kicks in, and the search for the “right” therapist can turn into endless scrolling, second-guessing, and avoidance. In this post, I share how to break free from the perfectionism trap, focus on connection over credentials, and take manageable steps to find a therapist who fits you. No need to wait for perfect—just start.

You’re productive, insightful, and holding it together—but something still feels off. If you’re a perfectionist who’s been thinking about therapy (but keep putting it off), this post is for you. I’m sharing 10 common signs it might be time to start therapy—especially if you’re feeling burned out, emotionally stuck, or constantly questioning if you’re doing “enough.”

You know therapy could probably help, but starting feels… like a lot. You've got a running list of reasons for waiting—some practical, some harder to name—and honestly, it can feel safer to stick with what you’ve been doing, even if it’s not really working. In this post, I’m breaking down why it’s so common for perfectionists to put off therapy, and how those reasons (while totally understandable) don’t have to keep holding you back.

Summer’s supposed to be fun, right? But what if it just feels like more pressure? As a therapist in NYC, I work with perfectionists who struggle to relax and enjoy the season. This post breaks down why summer can feel so overwhelming—and how to ease up, stop overthinking it, and actually enjoy some of it (without burning out).

You’re getting things done, keeping it all together, and showing up for everyone—but inside, you feel kind of… flat. If you're a high-functioning perfectionist who’s struggling to connect with your emotions lately, you're not alone. In this post, I explore why that emotional numbness shows up (even when life looks “fine”) and how to start feeling again—without falling apart.

Travel can be exciting… and totally overwhelming—especially when you feel responsible for everyone else’s comfort and happiness. In this blog, I share why that happens (hello, perfectionism!) and how you can gently shift those patterns so you can actually enjoy the trip too.

You’re not imagining it—saying “I’m fine” all the time does take a toll. If you’re an anxious perfectionist or people-pleaser who struggles to be honest about how you’re feeling, this post breaks down the “why,” the emotional cost, and how to start opening up (slowly, and in a way that still feels safe).

If you're an anxious perfectionist struggling to cope with everything going on right now (the news, the pressure, all of it), this one's for you. Written by a therapist who really understands that pressure, this guide offers support and therapist-backed tools to help you stay grounded and take action without burning yourself out trying to do it all.

As a therapist, I’ve worked with plenty of women caught in the “Good Girl” trap—the people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout cycle that leaves you feeling more drained than fulfilled. In this blog post, I’m sharing what you really need to hear if you’re stuck in these patterns (no shame here!). From setting boundaries without guilt to reconnecting with your true self, this post is for anyone ready to step out of that exhausting loop.

For many anxious perfectionists, expressing what they really want can feel deeply uncomfortable. Whether it’s worrying about rejection, feeling guilty about seeming selfish, or a fear of getting it “wrong,” it often feels easier to hold back. In this blog post, I’ll break down why it’s so tough to say what you want and share simple tips to help you start doing it—little by little—without losing authenticity or connection.

Ever freeze up or deflect when someone asks, “What do you want?” You’re not alone. For many anxious perfectionists, that seemingly simple question can feel overwhelming. In this blog, I dive into why answering “What do you want?” is so tough, and share practical tools to help you start answering with more confidence and clarity. Whether it’s taking small steps or shifting your mindset, you can begin to explore your true wants without the pressure.

Do you apologize for things that don’t need an apology? As a therapist working with anxious perfectionists, I know how constant apologizing can chip away at our confidence and impact our relationships. In this blog post, I explore why perfectionists tend to over-apologize and how therapy can help you break the cycle. Plus, I share a few practical tips for starting to take up space in a healthy, confident way.

If you're an anxious perfectionist, you know how overwhelming making decisions can be. Every choice might feel like the wrong one, leaving you second-guessing and overwhelmed. In this blog post, I dive into why this happens and offer simple, actionable tips to help you break the cycle of indecision, trust your instincts, and make decisions with more clarity and less anxiety.

Does taking (or even just planning) a day off leave you feeling more stressed than relaxed? As a therapist working with anxious perfectionists in New York, I hear this often. In this blog post, I’ll walk you through simple strategies for letting go of the need to plan every minute and actually enjoying your time off—without the guilt. From setting flexible intentions to embracing spontaneous activities, you’ll discover how to make the most of your break—even if it feels uncomfortable at first!

If you're grieving and wondering whether you're doing it “right,” you're not alone. Perfectionists often approach loss the same way they approach everything else: with high expectations, to-do lists, and a lot of self-judgment. In this guest post written by Natalie Greenberg, LCSW, we explore why grief doesn't follow rules—and why your way of grieving doesn’t have to be perfect to be valid.